| On Saturday I had one of my infrequent but always fabulous nights out in Leeds. I often wonder why I spend so much time (and money) travelling around the country when I have such a great social scene on my doorstep.
I'm not a great fan of large trannie get togethers as I prefer more subtle and intimate occasions. So only two of my T friends joined me, but when the two in question are former Miss Alternative London Leah, and reigning Miss Sparkle Steffi, it's fair to say that I was lucky to be surrounded by quality and not quantity! ;)
My (real) girlfriends Alison and Claire also came out to play, along with their lovely friend Dave. So a nice mixed group. You can see a few photos from the night here.
Now if you knew Steffi, then you would know that the night will revolve around (a) dancing (b) fabulous bars and clubs (c) Speedqueen (her 'spiritual home') (d) dancing in fabulous Speedqueen!
And dance we did, for at least 9 hours by my reckoning. Which isn't everyones cup of tea but it works for me!
After Speedqueen we went onto another more mainstream 'after club' club which was open until 9 am. We where the only tg's there but we had no problems and I have to say that the music was fabulous. I'll definitely be going again as we met some really fun people. One or two guys where a bit keen, but we managed to keep our distance.
I always think that the more trannies in a group, the more likely it is for you to be read. And I believe it works on an exponential scale too. And the later in the evening, the more wear and tear to your makeup and hair, so again the more likely that you'll be read. So I was quite pleased when on a number of occasions we where approached by people saying 'excuse me, my friends and I have been discussing you and we can't decide whether you are men or women'. If people are still unsure with three of us stood side by side at 6 am, then we must be doing something right!
It was also quiet funny when a (real) girl came up and said it was the size of Steffi's hands that had given her away, as it turned out that Steffi's hands where actually smaller and more feminine then hers. The poor girl didn't know what to say after that! :)
At one point I was chatting to an obviously intelligent guy who was asking me some very insightful questions about why I am the way I am. Eventually he asked 'do you like women or men?', to which I replied 'women'. Now this totally threw him, and we never got beyond this in the rest of the conversation. He made the comment 'but you've obviously put a lot of effort into trying to look attractive to men?'.
I tried to explain, that yes I am putting a lot of effort into trying to look attractive. But it's for my benefit, no one else's. If you think you look nice, then you feel good about yourself. You feel more confident, and confident people shine. If I wanted to snare a guy, I'd dress like a tart and go to one of the trannie fancier filled clubs. But I don't do either of those things because that's not what I'm about. There are lots of trannies like that and good luck to them, but its not for me.
To me his logic was the same as the guy who says 'look at the way she's dressed, she was asking for it'. I think that to assume that real women look attractive, just because they are desperate to meet a guy is at best silly. And at worst chauvinistic and incredibly egotistical. I suspect it's very much a man thing**, I doubt that a woman would have similar thoughts when seeing a handsome well dressed man.
**Since I wrote this I've asked a couple of my female friends about this, and they looked at me like I was a moron. Basically how could I ask such a dumb question when its a no brainer what the answer is? |
